What Are They Doing Now; I Didn’t Really Want To Know

In the last four months I have run across images or information concerning three of the major men that used to be in my life.  The first, *Scott was my boss back in the late nineties and early 2000s.  He and I became lovers and were having an affair.  He was married to a woman that he had met out of the country and had brought here so she could obtain citizenship.  She also had health issues (at least so he told me and it very well may have been true) that prevented them from having a sex life.  Again, according to him, she knew about me and was okay with our relationship.  I fell in love with this man like I had never with anyone else.  We kept our involvement a secret, although it wasn’t a well kept one.   Continue reading

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The Boyfriend, A.K.A. Graham*

Not his real name.  (In a continuing effort to remain anonymous and protect our privacy, my boyfriend’s name has been changed.  I will mark any details that I change in a similar fashion.)

I mentioned in my first entry that one of the things that has brought me here to wordpress is the desire to blog about my boyfriend Graham.  There is an almost ten year difference in our ages and I’m the older one.  Honestly this doesn’t make much of a difference to either of us.  After two years I’m pretty sure that if it were going to cause us major problems there would have been an indication.  It works for us quite well.  He’s mature for his age, which makes it much easier for him to encourage me to not work and accept full financial responsibility for us.  Initially I had intended to seek work again after I was laid off, even if only part time work, but he told me I didn’t need to and he didn’t particularly want me to.  It was easy to see just how much healthier and happier I was without a job.  I still may eventually pursue something part time, but right now I am in the process of booking my first paid wedding photography gig (fingers crossed). Continue reading